There is a moment we all know.
It’s not atstart(the beginning is easy: you haveenergy🔋, you have hope, you have the barrel of novelty). It isafterWhen you find out it's not enough "I want you"...you needmethod, timeand someface to faceto improve. 😃
You see people who do your own thing and you seem to be for themall natural. And the comparison, instead ofTurn on, youTurn off. 📉
If you want to becomeReally good., you have to acceptimproves to attempts: do, mistakes, analyzes, corrects and restarts. 🔄
And when you want to quit because "the others are ahead," you needtalk to yourselfin a way to get back on your own:
"I will be herebetter than the room, surely I will needtimebut withpatienceanddisciplineI can do it. "
What?does not mean"crash others"!
It means choosing a directionand decide that you will make that path to the bottom...improvestarting from ownerrors. That can be that new job you just started, that difficult university exam to overcome, that project you want to carry out at all costs.
The real difference between who improves and who quits: the internal dialogue
When you communicate, implicitly, you're inserting "input"in your mind. 📡
And theoutputThat's what you do.resist, how muchbelieve me, depends alsofrom the wordsthat yourepeat.
It is a theme that often, in my opinion, is undervalued because something useless, but words do not describe only reality, theydamage shape, the model, dig a groovewithin us.
That’s why theself-sabotageThat's it.Sub... does not destroy you in one day, digs you. Like a phrase said a thousand times in a low voice until it becomes "true".
If you want to be really good at something, the first "teammate"It's you. 🏋🏻♀️ And that meansset mentallya simple ruler...
Don't ever talk and then never hurt you, as if I were a failed project.
Personally, it is a rule that respect every day,if you are not the first to believe in yourself… Why should the others do it?
"Do good" doesn't mean "perfect" (and your mind knows)
A lot of people fall here,confuse the "do well" with the "do perfect". Perfection is often atoxic versionbut elegant of ourselves fornot publish, not deliver, not exposewho convinces us to stay in ourcomfort zone. 🛀🏼
The point is not to do bad things "just," it would make little sense andwe would devote so much energyin a wayuseless. 🤔
The point is to understand that the only way to truly learn is to:
do → wrong → analyze → correct → start again
And first we accept it and the better it is!
I know.tired, istoast. But the difference between whoBe good.and whoStay stillnot only in the dedicated "hours" in itself, but inhow many times you consciously interact in this cycle. 🔁
In other words, it is betterimperfect actionthat gives you data, compared to aperfect ideait allstays in the head. So yes, at firstDo it wrong, but do it!
This initiallyhelps us startAgive shapeto aintention, athoughtand thenwe add the aim. There is no rush, it is only onequestion of time. Then there is also to say that doing things done well also generates a deepinternal satisfactioncreating a "virtuous circle" that increases happiness. 🤩
Does Compare Turn You Off? Change metric: not "how far are the others," but "how good I am"
Comparison is inevitable because we areanimalsand we also identify "for contrast" compared to those around us.
The problem is when the comparison throws you down.But try to imaginethe room where you want to be "the first"not as a room of judges, but as a gym.
And in the gymyou don't need to feel ready...you needshow upandfollow your cardon your own. 📋
Look.who isGood boy., observewhat they dobut use it inright way. Not to say "I'll never make it", but to understand whichpattern, whichchoices repeat, whicherrors no longer make.
It’s something I often do too. But if I really have to make a comparison, I do it withthe version of me yesterday: how much have I improved? Where am I wrong?
Resilience: the competence you need when the motivation is not there
Themotivation is desirable. Eif you waitby "feel motivated"to do things, you're driving from case, from "One day I will"and I don't say that but somePsychological studies. 🧠
What saves you when you don't want iscapacity to be in trouble.
♪learnOtherlove to love(or at least)respect) the processEven when it isboring, repetitive, frustratingYou're buildingsomething that lasts. Forcewillandresilienceshould be ourspointsandbases of our being. 💪🏼
And to make this happen it is necessarytraining day by daywithout surrendering to difficulties and taking awareness thatevery day we'll understand things.
Many will beBeautiful, Other less.
And the choice will not be on what happens,but the way we can deal with it.
On this themeI have already written a dedicated articlethat in my opinion helps you to look at the goal from another angle, find here.
Inside you there is already "the good one". It's just pulled out with constancy
So...you want to be the first in the room or not?
ThenDon't trytheshortcutthat youavoids fatigue. Look for the rhythmCome back tomorrow!
And above all, choose wordslead forward, not words that make youput in the bench. Speak to yourself as ifthat goal I had already in my pocket. 🧲
Everyone within himself is a champion. Just pull it out..
