There is a moment we all know.
It’s not atstart (the beginning is easy: you have energy 🔋, you have hope, you have the barrel of novelty). It is afterWhen you find out it's not enough "I want you"...you need method, time and some face to face to improve. 😃
You see people who do your own thing and you seem to be for them all natural. And the comparison, instead of Turn on, you Turn off. 📉
If you want to become Really good., you have to accept improves to attempts: do, mistakes, analyzes, corrects and restarts. 🔄
And when you want to quit because "the others are ahead," you need talk to yourself in a way to get back on your own:
"I will be here better than the room, surely I will need time but with patience and discipline I can do it. "
What? does not mean "crash others"!
It means choosing a direction and decide that you will make that path to the bottom... improve starting from own errors. That can be that new job you just started, that difficult university exam to overcome, that project you want to carry out at all costs.
The real difference between who improves and who quits: the internal dialogue
When you communicate, implicitly, you're inserting "input"in your mind. 📡
And theoutput That's what you do. resist, how much believe me, depends also from the words that you repeat.
It is a theme that often, in my opinion, is undervalued because something useless, but words do not describe only reality, they damage shape, the model, dig a groove within us.
That’s why theself-sabotage That's it. Sub... does not destroy you in one day, digs you. Like a phrase said a thousand times in a low voice until it becomes "true".
If you want to be really good at something, the first "teammate" It's you. 🏋🏻♀️ And that means set mentally a simple ruler...
Don't ever talk and then never hurt you, as if I were a failed project.
Personally, it is a rule that respect every day, if you are not the first to believe in yourself… Why should the others do it?
"Do good" doesn't mean "perfect" (and your mind knows)
A lot of people fall here, confuse the "do well" with the "do perfect". Perfection is often a toxic version but elegant of ourselves for not publish, not deliver, not expose who convinces us to stay in our comfort zone. 🛀🏼
The point is not to do bad things "just," it would make little sense and we would devote so much energy in a way useless. 🤔
The point is to understand that the only way to truly learn is to:
do → wrong → analyze → correct → start again
And first we accept it and the better it is!
I know. tired, is toast. But the difference between who Be good. and who Stay still not only in the dedicated "hours" in itself, but in how many times you consciously interact in this cycle. 🔁
In other words, it is betterimperfect action that gives you data, compared to aperfect idea it all stays in the head. So yes, at first Do it wrong, but do it!
This initially helps us startA give shape to a intention, a thought and then we add the aim. There is no rush, it is only one question of time. Then there is also to say that doing things done well also generates a deep internal satisfaction creating a "virtuous circle" that increases happiness. 🤩
Does Compare Turn You Off? Change metric: not "how far are the others," but "how good I am"
Comparison is inevitable because we are animals and we also identify "for contrast" compared to those around us.
The problem is when the comparison throws you down. But try to imagine the room where you want to be "the first" not as a room of judges, but as a gym.
And in the gym you don't need to feel ready...you need show up and follow your card on your own. 📋
Look. who is Good boy., observe what they dobut use it in right way. Not to say "I'll never make it", but to understand which pattern, which choices repeat, which errors no longer make.
It’s something I often do too. But if I really have to make a comparison, I do it with the version of me yesterday: how much have I improved? Where am I wrong?
Resilience: the competence you need when the motivation is not there
The motivation is desirable. E if you wait by "feel motivated"to do things, you're driving from case, from "One day I will"and I don't say that but some Psychological studies. 🧠
What saves you when you don't want is capacity to be in trouble.
♪ learn Other love to love (or at least) respect) the processEven when it is boring, repetitive, frustratingYou're building something that lasts. Force will and resilience should be ours points and bases of our being. 💪🏼
And to make this happen it is necessary training day by day without surrendering to difficulties and taking awareness that every day we'll understand things.
Many will be Beautiful, Other less.
And the choice will not be on what happens, but the way we can deal with it.
On this theme I have already written a dedicated article that in my opinion helps you to look at the goal from another angle, find here.
Inside you there is already "the good one". It's just pulled out with constancy
So... you want to be the first in the room or not?
Then Don't try the shortcut that you avoids fatigue. Look for the rhythm Come back tomorrow!
And above all, choose words lead forward, not words that make you put in the bench. Speak to yourself as if that goal I had already in my pocket. 🧲
Everyone within himself is a champion. Just pull it out..
